Moms Talk: No-Show Fathers on Fathers Day

Sunday is Father's Day. Here's a topical question for many.

Question:Father's Day is a sensitive time of year for my family. My husband left a few years ago and my kids only see him a couple times a year. I don't believe they're obligated to send him a card or celebrate this day, but it's pretty tough when they see all the other kids in class making cards for their dads.  How can I make this easier for all of us?

Answer: You are not alone. For many, this is a painful time of year as they remember a dad who is no longer in their lives for a variety of reasons. Some fathers are physically present but emotionally absent, making those "You're the Best Father Ever" cards a bit tricky to buy.  If you can, pull your kids' teacher aside and explain your situation to her. Perhaps your child can make a card for another special person in their life, like a grandfather or friend. If they want to make a Father's Day card or send one, however, I'd let them. As for the actual day, if you can, treat it like every other day. Perhaps a day at the beach with ice cream cones and a bike ride will help you all make new memories. Celebrate the life you do have with your loved ones. It doesn't mean you ignore the loss and the pain, but it shows the kids you are still a family, united and strong.