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Moms Talk Q & A: Is it Okay for Mom to Snoop?

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Q: My teenage daughter has recently been exerting her independence, hanging out with boys, etc. I completely trusted her until recently, when I snuck her phone after she went to bed and read some of her texts; I was shocked at what I read! Friends "hooking up" with boys behind the local movie theater? Aren't they too young? I can't let her know I snooped, so I don't know what to do. Am I the only mom who snoops, and what do I do now?

—Sneaky and Shocked, Rancho Santa Margarita, mom of 2

Q: I have a teenage daughter, too and just recently "hacked" her Facebook account. I was not happy with some of the pictures I saw, as well as the comments her friends were making about boys. I think it's okay to sometimes snoop when it comes to your kids. As long as they are under my roof, what they do is my business! I took my daughter out to lunch and made it clear that she could tell me anything she wanted to. I was hoping for a major heart to heart but it didn't happen. When I asked what she and her friends thought was appropriate with the opposite sex she just said, "Oh, Mom, we don't even talk about that stuff!" I know it's not true, and I was soo tempted to tell her I saw her Facebook but I kept my mouth shut. Ugh! I would love to know what other moms are doing to keep the communication up with their teens.

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—"Brandy", Rancho Santa Margarita, mom of 3

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